a lot of people use the word incorrectly. did you know that? i am often one of them. you probably are, too.
for example, i might call it ironic that i feel like the weakest and most self-absorbed person in the world (while i try to survive ivf) at the same time as other people are telling me how strong i am and how much they appreciate my heart and the light that i share. but i don’t think that’s actually the correct use of the word. because no one in this situation (hopefully) is attempting to “express something other than and especially the opposite of the literal meaning” of the words. i’m certainly not meaning the opposite of weak and selfish and when i say i feel weak and selfish. and given the blush on my cheek, the lump in my throat, and the literal warming of my heart, i don’t believe that you lovelies who tell me i’m brave and strong and good and kind mean anything but what you’ve said.
so i don’t think that’s irony. (but you can correct me if i’m wrong.) it’s probably more like evidence of me having a skewed perspective of myself. and also of others not knowing my deepest and darkest secret flaws.
here’s an example that i think might actually qualify for irony. or at least one definition of irony.
first, the definition.
from merriam-webster – incongruity between the actual result of a sequence of events and the normal or expected result
from bing – incongruity between what actually happens and what might be expected to happen, especially when this disparity seems absurd or laughable
from thefreedictionary.com – incongruity between what might be expected and what actually occurs
and now my example. the sequence of events is any natural or assisted method of attempting to get pregnant. the expected or normal result would be pregnancy. the actual result thus far is, of course, not what is expected. and voila. irony.
did i get it right?